“This still hurts after having four children, because it does.”
During the October 2 episode of her Not Gonna Lie podcast, Kylie Kelce’s voice quivers as she remembers a pivotal visit that altered her life. Alternating between sniffles, tears, and expletives, she recounts her 13-week appointment, during which the nurse was unable to find a heartbeat. “I could just tell,” Kylie reflects. “You didn’t find one because there isn’t one.”
This marked a missed miscarriage—an experience that would leave a lasting impact on her pregnancy journey, despite later having four children. The moment is quiet, respectful, and heartbreakingly relatable to anyone who has dealt with a loss in silence.
Kylie shared her story in detail for the first time.
Kylie outlined the timeline: following a positive pregnancy test in 2018, she consulted her obstetrician and noted that the baby was “a few days late” but still within acceptable limits. While traveling with her husband, Jason Kelce—who played as center for the Philadelphia Eagles—she scheduled a 13-week appointment.
Before heading back to Philadelphia, the couple informed their family through delicately planned surprises, capturing joyful moments on video, from presenting tiny baby booties to revealing the pregnancy to Jason’s mother and grandmother. These cherished memories were later shadowed by heartbreak when Kylie discovered at the 13-week appointment that her baby had ceased developing between 9 and 10 weeks, leading to a scheduled D&E shortly after.
This experience influenced her perspective in subsequent pregnancies: she delayed sharing news publicly, closely monitored each milestone, and carried heightened anxiety until each child was safely delivered.
Why this matters now
October is recognized as Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month, a time dedicated to providing parents with the language, community, and support to discuss loss. Established to honor those who have faced miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant death, the month fosters conversation and remembrance, illuminating experiences often endured in silence.
For parents like Kylie—and anyone who has suffered the loss of a pregnancy—this month serves as a poignant reminder: grief is legitimate, complex, and often lingering. Sharing even a single story can bring comfort to someone feeling isolated.
Understanding missed miscarriage and persistent grief
A missed miscarriage, typically called a “silent” miscarriage, occurs when a fetus stops developing, yet the body does not display typical miscarriage symptoms, such as bleeding or cramping. This condition is often identified during routine ultrasound exams, typically around the 12-week mark, when no heartbeat is found or the fetus appears smaller than anticipated for its gestational age.
According to an article published by Progyny, the lack of physical symptoms can make the diagnosis particularly jarring and emotionally draining for parents. Many may continue to exhibit pregnancy symptoms like nausea or breast tenderness, potentially delaying the recognition of the loss.
This highlights the necessity of regular prenatal care and the crucial role healthcare providers play in monitoring the health of both mother and fetus.
Support and ways to help
Parents experiencing pregnancy loss need not face their grief alone. Organizations like the Star Legacy Foundation provide education, support groups, and advocacy for families confronting miscarriage, stillbirth, and neonatal death.
Offering support to a friend can be as simple as listening, recognizing their grief, or sending a thoughtful note. Avoid phrases like “it was meant to be,” and instead provide presence, validation, and compassionate empathy.
A message that never leaves
“This still hurts after having four children, because it does,” Kylie conveyed. By speaking candidly, she grants others unspoken permission to grieve, remember, and share their own experiences—reminding parents everywhere that even amidst joy, the echoes of loss can linger, and that emotional response is perfectly valid.
Source:
Progyny. 2025. “Missed Miscarriage: Causes, Symptoms, and Treatments.”
Tommy’s, the pregnancy and baby charity. “Missed miscarriage.”
